How do you love ,How should you love*
The key thing is understanding what the word “love” means and what it totally entails ..
Many people ask questions like ,
– I have given all why does he not love me anymore ?
– Can someone actually fall out of love ?
– love is not real ,is it ?
The answers to these questions may depend on your understanding of what love is. How to practice it and majorly what it entails .
However, there is no real answer to these questions because love comes differently to different people. there are some constant facts about love, these facts may assist to ascertain what you feel towards another individual.
There are so many keys to loving ,these keys should fall in place for you to understand the steps to love ..
Many of us just believe your love for a particular individual is based on availability of that person
Some believe in lust for the flesh and even a few are driven just by materialistic features and mindset..
Communication- which is the number one .helps identify who the person really is.communication brings you closer to you partner and helps you with how d individual thinks, while sex clones the individuals person, it clouds your thoughts and blinds you from all the important attributes you should see and analyze.
Without communication there is nothing to understand because you barely know the individual. However if your communication is solid then you will see both the good the bad and the ugly, you will know the person you are with not the outer shell that is shown to all and sundry. It is from here that trust brews, you now know the person’s limit, an at this point you are beginning to understand the persons character and attitude, what makes the person thick.
Understanding/knowledge of the individual which is derived from the initial key..
Attraction in which the way you see the person should be that which will soothe you always ..
Mutual affection – the feelings should be a give and take ,even if its not equal..
Respect – is very key .always respect his/her opinions ,body ,people around the individual . cause its just reciprocal …
Respect, if you are with an individual and he/she doesn’t respect you it will be visible in the way the person treats you and addresses you, this is yet another reason why it is key to communicate. You cannot claim you love someone if you do not respect the person. That is just a fact, you cherish someone you love and you love someone you respect.
Plan the future together, if you indeed communicate this will come naturally because you will automatically tell each other things about how you picture yourself at a particular time. This way you will be able to match that with what you are aiming for.
-share almost the same views of life .
– plan the future together – gist about how you see him/her in your future.it gives hope ..
– Be proud of him/her anywhere and do introduce her as your partner to all around you..
– Send all sorts (texts ,gifts and little surprise stuffs) to remind each other that him/her is special
Draw the line always – with everyone around you both from security .especially for your woman .ladies feel very insecure most times..
Appreciate one another, just like you can’t love and not respect you can’t love and not appreciate, it doesn’t have to be material things (you don’t want to buy affection now) ,it’s not bad to give material thing though, A simple reminder of how special he/she is to you, if you love someone you won’t have to think before all this comes to mind because the person’s thought is always on your mind.
All these keys lead to a sweet forever with your partner .. The above helps you sort out your feelings about an individual, however love is not what holds a relationship, perseverance, commitment and Friendship does. Therefor if you think you aren’t feeling particularly connected to someone you concluded you love ( i.e. if you feel like you are falling out of love with someone you decided you love), then you go back you the beginning with that person, Communication. Communicate and you will get your connection back.
There is this key that many youths would not really wan take in but its the truth and I will ask as a question ?
1.At your joining (wedding) ,should the pastor say you may kiss the bride or you may kiss the bride again ?
2.we all are particular about wedding night and honeymoon.why ?
3.what’s the difference between last few months and after the wedding ?
It all matters alot..
Ladies and Gents. Do what is right and the right things would dwell upon your life.
Kitan Faleye & Lilian Oyinleye