BLOG (LAR): Sex outside a Relationship -Negative, Positive or Neutral

*Now a relationship between two people has to be based on an agreement and understanding, defining the type of emotions that will lead to future situations between them*

*Bringing emotions into this context, ever wondered why people cheat on those they claim to love?*

*As much as one falls in love, one can also fall out of love*

 *People define love in different ways and view it from certain perspectives. So depending on whichever angle they are looking at it from, they would be able to tell how they feel and to what extent, to be able to determine what they want and why they want it*

Most of us know sexual intercourse is the thrusting of an erected penis into the vagina for sexual pleasure and/or reproduction.

 Sex before marriage depends on the doctrine one follows. 

For clarification, relationship in respect to this article means Courtship or Marriage.

 It is safe to say relationships have to be based on an agreement and understanding between the persons involved.

 Yes!!!, understanding on the type/nature of the love shared, the said and noted dos and don’ts that help the relationship stand and of course, the future of what you both share no matter how myopic it might be.

Ever wonder why people cheat on those they claim to love? 

The writer’s view : cheating is way more than just sex, cheating is more of emotions, its sharing moments meant for just your partner with someone else (sex inclusive), its being dishonest by making one believe something that is not true (the promise of undying love) in order to get something (loyalty, love, etc) for one’s self.

I hear people say that they fell out of love. Well, that is expected since you “fell in” in the first place. The right way is to stand in love because being in love is way more than the happy moments you share, its also about the windy and stormy times too. Why won’t you fall out of love when you could not even attain stamina when coming into it in the first place.

*quick scenario*

There was a riot in school between the local indigenous gang and the students. In this case scenario, a foreign student(married) gets kidnapped by the local gang. On trying to escape in the late hours of the night, she falls into the hands of young man(in a serious relationship) that also fled the riot scene but got lost in the forest unable to find a way back to the community .

They survived for days, days turned weeks. They shared a lot of care, love , hope, trust, honesty and many more feelings together.

One particular situation led to a very cozy atmosphere and sex happened. Days after that they got rescued and they both went back to their lives ..

The lady had to tell her husband the whole story including the sex situation. She was so scared but she just could not help but tell him all because she was over it and she explained that she used it as a tool to stay alive for that moment.

“Could he have understood ?” 

“Did he send her packing ? “

On the other side , the guy equally did the same .But he was attached to that moment he explained. 

” Did she break up with him?”*

Food for your thoughts…

What should really be the concern ?

The sex or the affair…

*By Faleye Kitan*